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What do you want, what do you need?

By November 23, 2017No Comments

A soulmate is someone who knows you better than you know yourself, since they see so much of themselves in you. They just won’t always admit when they’re right about how you conduct yourself, especially if it’s in a manner that won’t benefit you. Sometimes, as difficult as it may be, we just have to let people find their own way in life, no matter how much we want, or need, to help them along their paths.

It’s perfectly fine and a desirable thing to want to draw this special person to you. The thing is, they will never come whenever you want them to. I’ve spent a lot of time hoping, wishing, praying, attempting to manifest my desires, and although a form of them stopped by from time to time, it was never exactly what I wanted. And after enough tripping and stumbling, it dawned on me that I had absolutely no idea what it was I actually wanted. I realized I needed time to myself to figure it all out. And so far, this exploratory respite is exactly what I need.

Words are important to me. I am a writer after all, both in and out of the newsroom. So I make sure to mean what I say and mean what I type. That extends to choosing my words wisely. I’m not sure if most people distinguish this, but there’s a huge difference between wanting something and needing something. Want is a temporary desire; Need is something you can’t live without. And because we believe we can’t live without that perfect person, we sometimes can mistake our wants for our needs.

Figuring out what you want can be difficult, because it’s always subject to change. And even if you do obtain what you want, it may not be all it’s cracked up to be. Sometimes, wanting just isn’t enough. You need to be willing to make that conscious effort to change your trajectory and try something new. Staying in the sameness, while comfortable, can become stale. Moving on and trying other things can help you discover new wants that exist within you that you may not have thought about otherwise.

The perfect partner will ignite the wants, since we all need a boost from time to time. And there may come a time when you’ll have go after them with or without that person by your side. The hope is whoever is out there for you will have your wants in mind, and hold them as dear as you do. If they do not, then you need to steer clear. At least for the time being.

But don’t let me tell you what you need to do. I want you to figure that out for yourself.


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